1. Harlequin dolls, though outdated, can still be great Christmas presents even to those people who claim they're too old for toys. But stick to those harlequin dolls which are magical 9e.g. they come to life at the strok of midnight and turn out to be dashing princes from a faraway kingdom). - (Sweet Valley Twins Magna Edition "The Magic Christmas" featured twin harlequin dolls/princes Dorin and... uh-oh)
2. Either Sweet Valley Jr. High books were not available in Manila when I was in my (bookworm-y) prime or I simply did not ask the saleslady for their whereabouts.
3. Nerds have always been at the bottom of the food chain.
4. In Sweet Valley, Halloween happens at least thrice when you're in second grade. Christmas happens a lot more often. And you can celebrate your birthday five times in a year and you will still be 16 years old.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Saturday, July 19, 2008
tight-lipped
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I woke up with you on my mind. Are you awake? Have you eaten? Are you going to be late for your class? I wonder what your thoughts are upon waking up. I wonder how it would be like waking up in the morning and finding myself beside you. I think that would be quite nice. And just the thought of looking at you while you sleep, hearing you snore noisily while I'm attempting to hide a chuckle, and kissing your cheek good morning bring a smile to my lips.
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Hi babe. Wala lang. I think I did well in my first class today. :)
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Snippets of good vibes. News about my life. However small some joys could be for me, I enjoy sharing them with you. It's not that I'm bragging - small nods from professors aren't really an awards-night experience. But they make me feel good, positive, somehow. And I want to share that feeling - however ordinary - with you. I want you to be proud of me. I know I am not really an exceptional person, that I don't really excel in anything. I can't move mountains. I can't even say a paragraph's worth of sense. But I'd like for you to be happy that you have me. Yes. Happy.
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Hi dear... Wala lang. I love you. Thank you for everything. :)
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There. I've said it, although there are a million more things I want to tell you, but I know you have other things to do and long messages - especially corny ones - aren't really up your alley. I can't help it, though. I'm a hopeless romantic, although I think some cynicism has already polluted my brain. I'm the walk-in-the-rain-under-the-same-umbrella type. I snort when our classmates get huge bouquets of assorted flowers from their men but it's usually just due to envy. I like simple gestures of affections: a surprise visit, a home-cooked meal, a peck on the cheek, a smile from you when we're among our friends, a gentle squeeze of my hand. These things live in one's memory as the scent of fresh blooms enliven springtime. But of course, I usually keep these ideas to myself. They aren't really up your alley.
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Hi... Hmmm... Kinda sad. Wala lang. Take care always.
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There are times when I feel lonely. Alone. Sad. I'd like to talk to someone I trust and care for. Someone I know who'd care. I'd like to talk to you. I'm thinking of calling you up, sharing with you the story behind my sadness. Maybe I'd cry. Maybe I'd feel better almost immediately after you pick up. But I can't be so sure. I know you don't like it when I cry. You'd put down the phone and I'd be alone once again. And I'd want to call you up again but I can only do that if I stop crying. So I'd will myself to stop, wipe away the renegade tears, and force myself to forget my troubles. More often than not, the method works and I would immediately feel stupid for crying in the first place, although I think a part of me would still be crushed. My problems won't go away.
On the other hand, even if I don't get to cry, you might not want to talk - to me at the moment, or about my troubles. We both have a lot in our hands but I know you're busier than I could ever be. I should spare you the bother. And so I just send a generic message and hope you'd reply. If not, I'd blog. Or call my friends. Or just cry by myself.
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Hi babe. Wala lang... I miss you. Wala lang.
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I want to talk to you. There's a lot I want to say. I want to be in your arms. I want to feel your arms.
But you might be asleep.
But you might be busy.
But I'm scared you might not want to listen.
Hi babe. Good morning! Hope you have a great day ahead... :)
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I woke up with you on my mind. Are you awake? Have you eaten? Are you going to be late for your class? I wonder what your thoughts are upon waking up. I wonder how it would be like waking up in the morning and finding myself beside you. I think that would be quite nice. And just the thought of looking at you while you sleep, hearing you snore noisily while I'm attempting to hide a chuckle, and kissing your cheek good morning bring a smile to my lips.
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Hi babe. Wala lang. I think I did well in my first class today. :)
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Snippets of good vibes. News about my life. However small some joys could be for me, I enjoy sharing them with you. It's not that I'm bragging - small nods from professors aren't really an awards-night experience. But they make me feel good, positive, somehow. And I want to share that feeling - however ordinary - with you. I want you to be proud of me. I know I am not really an exceptional person, that I don't really excel in anything. I can't move mountains. I can't even say a paragraph's worth of sense. But I'd like for you to be happy that you have me. Yes. Happy.
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Hi dear... Wala lang. I love you. Thank you for everything. :)
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There. I've said it, although there are a million more things I want to tell you, but I know you have other things to do and long messages - especially corny ones - aren't really up your alley. I can't help it, though. I'm a hopeless romantic, although I think some cynicism has already polluted my brain. I'm the walk-in-the-rain-under-the-same-umbrella type. I snort when our classmates get huge bouquets of assorted flowers from their men but it's usually just due to envy. I like simple gestures of affections: a surprise visit, a home-cooked meal, a peck on the cheek, a smile from you when we're among our friends, a gentle squeeze of my hand. These things live in one's memory as the scent of fresh blooms enliven springtime. But of course, I usually keep these ideas to myself. They aren't really up your alley.
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Hi... Hmmm... Kinda sad. Wala lang. Take care always.
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There are times when I feel lonely. Alone. Sad. I'd like to talk to someone I trust and care for. Someone I know who'd care. I'd like to talk to you. I'm thinking of calling you up, sharing with you the story behind my sadness. Maybe I'd cry. Maybe I'd feel better almost immediately after you pick up. But I can't be so sure. I know you don't like it when I cry. You'd put down the phone and I'd be alone once again. And I'd want to call you up again but I can only do that if I stop crying. So I'd will myself to stop, wipe away the renegade tears, and force myself to forget my troubles. More often than not, the method works and I would immediately feel stupid for crying in the first place, although I think a part of me would still be crushed. My problems won't go away.
On the other hand, even if I don't get to cry, you might not want to talk - to me at the moment, or about my troubles. We both have a lot in our hands but I know you're busier than I could ever be. I should spare you the bother. And so I just send a generic message and hope you'd reply. If not, I'd blog. Or call my friends. Or just cry by myself.
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Hi babe. Wala lang... I miss you. Wala lang.
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I want to talk to you. There's a lot I want to say. I want to be in your arms. I want to feel your arms.
But you might be asleep.
But you might be busy.
But I'm scared you might not want to listen.
Monday, July 7, 2008
a lot of the things I know, I learned from Sweet Valley
My professor in Political Law Review, Atty. Jacinto Jimenez, was dishing out lines from Macbeth earlier and ranting about kids not knowing Shakespeare's works nowadays.
I got kinda smug since I knew the lines he was reciting:
"Double, Double
Toil and trouble
Fire burn
And cauldron bubble."
Although, honestly speaking, I didn't learn it by reading Macbeth (but, yes, I do have a copy of Macbeth. And a Midsummer Night's Dream. And Julius Caesar. And Romeo and Juliet - of course. And... ahh. Just refer to my book shelves.). I learned the same by reading... dan-da-ra-ran! Sweet Valley Kids! I'm not so sure though if that was in Book 12 "Trick or Treat" or in another issue but, still, I learned a lot from the Wakefield Twins.
Contrary to what most people think, Sweet Valley books aren't at all useless (Refer to the Macbeth learning). In fact, I discovered the poem "Remember" by Christina Georgina Rossetti through Elizabeth Wakefield's diary (to those who don't know her, she's one-half of the Wakefield twins of Sweet Valley, the other half being Jessica). Now, I can't be too sure if that was Volume 1 or 2 of her diary.
The poem goes:
"Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more, day by day,
You tell me of our future that you planned;
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve;
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad."
The poem was recited by her then-boyfriend Todd Wilkins in the auditorium. He dedicated the poem to her since he would be leaving for Vermont a short time thereafter. And I remember having cried buckets of tears as I read the poem over and over and over again. Yeah, yeah. But c'mon! I think I was in sixth grade at that time! The twins' diaries were actually part of the Sweet Valley High books, by the way.
Ah. Let's go back to Sweet Valley Kids. Aside from lines from the great pillars of literature, the series teach young bookworms a lot about other matters, too.
Book 13, aptly titled "Starring Winston Egbert" gave me a quick lesson about the Indians and the history of Thanksgiving. In that book, the second-grade kids took part in the play commemorating the start of Thanksgiving in America. Jessica (my favorite twin) saved the day.
Tonsils may be taken out, as per Book 20, "The Twins Go to the Hospital". Once the operation is over, the patient loses his or her voice and it's a good reason to play Pictionary in the hospital room and eat ice cream.
Jessica's Snobby Club (I don't remember the book number), I think, was the first culprit to turn me against the idea of sororities and fraternities and "elite" groups. There, Jessica and her "snobby" friends formed the "Orchid Club", which was composed of those girls who had elaborate orchid pins/brooches or whatever you call them. None-owners of those pins may not join. Plus, the members may not run, play with other people, or do other things which entail association with non-members and prejudice the condition of the delicate orchid pins. Yes, the beginning of a sorority of sorts.
Another Jessica-centered book was "Jessica and the Spelling Bee". Jessica is not known as the smart twin - that's Elizabeth. But Jess was the one who managed to represent her school to the Spelling Bee. As she tried her damnedest to extricate herself from the said contest due to fright and insecurity, which was largely brought about by the jeers of her classmates about her having cheated her way to the Bee, Jess researched on hearing impairment. Then and there, Jess and I (hehe) learned about the stirrup - a small bone located in the middle ear (yes, yes. The same word refers to the loop which hangs from either side of a horse's saddle. This bone in the ear is shaped like the horse saddle's stirrups, hence the name.).
Spell it: Stirrup. S-T-I-R-R-U-P. Stirrup.
Sweet Valley. S-W-E-E-T V-A-L-L-E-Y.
That's it for now, children of the 80's and 90's. More about the Wakefield twins and their series next time.
I got kinda smug since I knew the lines he was reciting:
"Double, Double
Toil and trouble
Fire burn
And cauldron bubble."
Although, honestly speaking, I didn't learn it by reading Macbeth (but, yes, I do have a copy of Macbeth. And a Midsummer Night's Dream. And Julius Caesar. And Romeo and Juliet - of course. And... ahh. Just refer to my book shelves.). I learned the same by reading... dan-da-ra-ran! Sweet Valley Kids! I'm not so sure though if that was in Book 12 "Trick or Treat" or in another issue but, still, I learned a lot from the Wakefield Twins.
Contrary to what most people think, Sweet Valley books aren't at all useless (Refer to the Macbeth learning). In fact, I discovered the poem "Remember" by Christina Georgina Rossetti through Elizabeth Wakefield's diary (to those who don't know her, she's one-half of the Wakefield twins of Sweet Valley, the other half being Jessica). Now, I can't be too sure if that was Volume 1 or 2 of her diary.
The poem goes:
"Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more, day by day,
You tell me of our future that you planned;
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve;
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad."
The poem was recited by her then-boyfriend Todd Wilkins in the auditorium. He dedicated the poem to her since he would be leaving for Vermont a short time thereafter. And I remember having cried buckets of tears as I read the poem over and over and over again. Yeah, yeah. But c'mon! I think I was in sixth grade at that time! The twins' diaries were actually part of the Sweet Valley High books, by the way.
Ah. Let's go back to Sweet Valley Kids. Aside from lines from the great pillars of literature, the series teach young bookworms a lot about other matters, too.
Book 13, aptly titled "Starring Winston Egbert" gave me a quick lesson about the Indians and the history of Thanksgiving. In that book, the second-grade kids took part in the play commemorating the start of Thanksgiving in America. Jessica (my favorite twin) saved the day.
Tonsils may be taken out, as per Book 20, "The Twins Go to the Hospital". Once the operation is over, the patient loses his or her voice and it's a good reason to play Pictionary in the hospital room and eat ice cream.
Jessica's Snobby Club (I don't remember the book number), I think, was the first culprit to turn me against the idea of sororities and fraternities and "elite" groups. There, Jessica and her "snobby" friends formed the "Orchid Club", which was composed of those girls who had elaborate orchid pins/brooches or whatever you call them. None-owners of those pins may not join. Plus, the members may not run, play with other people, or do other things which entail association with non-members and prejudice the condition of the delicate orchid pins. Yes, the beginning of a sorority of sorts.
Another Jessica-centered book was "Jessica and the Spelling Bee". Jessica is not known as the smart twin - that's Elizabeth. But Jess was the one who managed to represent her school to the Spelling Bee. As she tried her damnedest to extricate herself from the said contest due to fright and insecurity, which was largely brought about by the jeers of her classmates about her having cheated her way to the Bee, Jess researched on hearing impairment. Then and there, Jess and I (hehe) learned about the stirrup - a small bone located in the middle ear (yes, yes. The same word refers to the loop which hangs from either side of a horse's saddle. This bone in the ear is shaped like the horse saddle's stirrups, hence the name.).
Spell it: Stirrup. S-T-I-R-R-U-P. Stirrup.
Sweet Valley. S-W-E-E-T V-A-L-L-E-Y.
That's it for now, children of the 80's and 90's. More about the Wakefield twins and their series next time.
Saturday, July 5, 2008
from the penthouse, looking down
Paranoid. Scared. Quick-tempered. Weak.
But I am not less of a person just because I'm all these and more. You try to change me - for the better, you say. You try to rehabilitate my ways: render gentle my tongue, curb my language, do away with my choice of clothes. You want me to stop fumbling with my answers and my logic by reminding me over and over again that I just don't respond the way I am supposed to.
With these means, yes, I do realize my flaws. But instead of successfully overcoming them all, my pride shatters into smaller pieces with each blow. I draw myself deeper into my shell.
You may prove everyone right. I may fail. Badly. Terribly. With these wounds to my pride, I lose all the remaining respect I have for myself, if any. Each day, my spirit falters and try as I may to push myself upwards again, my arms fail me. Your words drag me down.
I'm on the brink of falling - all 23 floors down.
Just let me save myself.
But I am not less of a person just because I'm all these and more. You try to change me - for the better, you say. You try to rehabilitate my ways: render gentle my tongue, curb my language, do away with my choice of clothes. You want me to stop fumbling with my answers and my logic by reminding me over and over again that I just don't respond the way I am supposed to.
With these means, yes, I do realize my flaws. But instead of successfully overcoming them all, my pride shatters into smaller pieces with each blow. I draw myself deeper into my shell.
You may prove everyone right. I may fail. Badly. Terribly. With these wounds to my pride, I lose all the remaining respect I have for myself, if any. Each day, my spirit falters and try as I may to push myself upwards again, my arms fail me. Your words drag me down.
I'm on the brink of falling - all 23 floors down.
Just let me save myself.
Thursday, June 19, 2008
Hide and Seek
How do you stop being insecure? How do you drown out pessimism? How do you do just that, when all your life, you've been that? How, when you are that?
You see, I hate the feeling of rejection so I do my best to counter it, even if it means acting way before the blow comes. I call it defensive mechanism. Others call it paranoia. Maybe it is. But I have got to do it. I have got to protect myself. I should, of course, especially when there's no one else there who'll protect me.
I remember when I was about 16 years old. I just graduated from high school - salutatorian. (My dad wasn't at all happy. He wanted me to be the best. But I ended up only as second best.) My dad, his assistant, and I went to attend the Easter vigil in our province, Bukidnon. I was feeling quite pretty, with my blue-green chiffon dress and strappy heels. I stayed close to my dad, proud to be the only daughter of a popular public figure in our town.
People greeted him as we made our way to the cathedral's huge doors. I smiled at everyone as we passed, my hand comfortably resting on my dad's arm.
Then we met this middle-aged couple who respectfully greeted my dad. They chatted for a bit, while I stood there by my dad's side, a warm smile on my face. The woman asked my dad who I was. Then it happened.
My dad shifted his feet as if he were a man going through an inquest proceedings. The woman and her husband waited. And stared at me. Ogled, was more like it. My dad said, "My adopted." I froze.
"Ah," the woman replied in the vernacular, "good thing you got a decent looking one. She seems nice enough. You're lucky." Then she turned her back on me and talked to my dad some more.
Somehow, I didn't really notice how I ended up amid a throng of people fighting their way into the church. No, I wasn't elbowing my way into salvation alongside them. I think I just let them walk all over me - literally and otherwise.
Fighting back the tears, hiccuping like there's no tomorrow, I clumsily walked around, looking for Rico, my dad's assistant and, as time has proven, one of my trusted friends. When I did find him, I told him unfeelingly that I'd be sticking with him through the whole religious gathering. (I'm almost tempted to refer to it as "quasi-religious gathering", what with all the hypocrites present. Or should I say "pseudo-religious"?)
I sat through more than an hour's worth of inaudible sermon, preachings I couldn't really understand due to my shallow knowledge of the place's language, and crying babies. And all throughout, I was shifting between trying hard not to cry and cursing the whole damn place - its people included, of course - into oblivion.
I hated my father - yes, my biological father, that same popular public figure who referred to me as his adopted child - for denying me. It wasn't my fault that he accidentally got a woman - my biological mother - pregnant out of wedlock. It wasn't my fault that he couldn't very well tell the world his sins, much less own up to that particular dirty deed even though the finished product has been made available for the physical world to see. It wasn't my fault that he's a bachelor with a baggage, which, if I may add (not for spite but just for further factual matters), he tried to hide for, say, 16 years.
True, I thought to myself while shredding the contribution envelop into strips, he provided for my education (still is), gave me a house to live in, a nanny and two more housekeepers, a driver, and a hefty allowance. But he also deprived me of my mother and a good father, since he shipped me off to Manila "for educational purposes" while he stayed in quiet Bukidnon. And he had the gall to tell people I'm adopted, when in fact, I'm his own flesh and blood.
That, my friends (yes, yes. I only have so many blog readers), has got to be the biggest rejection I had during my adolescent years. And even though I'm okay with my dad now - we don't fight as much, a lot of people know now that I'm his illegitimate but only child, he generally/kinda/somewhat treats me well in public - I haven't really forgotten that event in my young life. Like a scar, it had become attached to me, become a second skin, which also functions as a shield from further damage.
When similar or potentially like situations come my way, I immediately brace myself and my scar does its wonders. It numbs me quickly (maybe that's how drugs work for addicts, too). Like earlier today, I found myself in an elevator with three classmates. My girl classmate was teasing me about someone. Actually, I had swore to her in class that if our professor won't call me for recitation that day, I promise I won't fight with my boyfriend for two whole weeks. She brought that up in the elevator and teased me about it. Our other guy classmate who was also there in the elevator with us rationalized: we (my boyfriend and I) shouldn't be fighting since, in the first place, we weren't together. Yes, because we weren't together. Not a couple. Not romantically affiliated with each other. I froze.
Our girl classmate grew uncomfortable. I think I knew how she felt, by the way. She was torn between telling our guy classmate off and actually entertaining the bit of possibility that, indeed, we weren't a couple, as I had led her to believe, and that my stories were just a dreamy product of my sick imagination. After all, the guy classmate, yes, that guy in the elevator, and my boyfriend were good friends.
All throughout the ordeal, in that cramped elevator, I just stuck with my phony smile and ignored both of them. I fixed my gaze at the fourth passenger, another guy classmate who's as confused as the other two were. I prayed to the Lord, my God, to be saved from another rejection, another probable denial of relations.
It's like this: that part of me has been damaged already that it cannot be damaged some more. All I can do now is to prevent the damage from piling up. I have my scar already and I don't want another scar to settle on top of my existing scar. Thus, the defense.
But then they call it insecurity, paranoia, cynicism, and pessimism. Hell. They call it insanity. I say to myself I don't really care. They can call it anything they want. For me, it's my shield.
But, really, I do care. And I want the "insanity" to stop. I want to revel in the world's beauty, to look at the sunflowers as beautiful creations and not as temporary and useless blooms which will wilt away tomorrow or even later. I want to believe that I can do wonderful things, that I can be happy, that I AM happy, and not anticipate misfortunes and a lifetime of misery. I want to trust people and I want them to trust me, too. I want to be accepted and loved. I want others to feel proud of me. I want to laugh, and mean it.
I don't want to be rejected again and denied by those I care about. Where's a sense of security when I need it the most?
You see, I hate the feeling of rejection so I do my best to counter it, even if it means acting way before the blow comes. I call it defensive mechanism. Others call it paranoia. Maybe it is. But I have got to do it. I have got to protect myself. I should, of course, especially when there's no one else there who'll protect me.
I remember when I was about 16 years old. I just graduated from high school - salutatorian. (My dad wasn't at all happy. He wanted me to be the best. But I ended up only as second best.) My dad, his assistant, and I went to attend the Easter vigil in our province, Bukidnon. I was feeling quite pretty, with my blue-green chiffon dress and strappy heels. I stayed close to my dad, proud to be the only daughter of a popular public figure in our town.
People greeted him as we made our way to the cathedral's huge doors. I smiled at everyone as we passed, my hand comfortably resting on my dad's arm.
Then we met this middle-aged couple who respectfully greeted my dad. They chatted for a bit, while I stood there by my dad's side, a warm smile on my face. The woman asked my dad who I was. Then it happened.
My dad shifted his feet as if he were a man going through an inquest proceedings. The woman and her husband waited. And stared at me. Ogled, was more like it. My dad said, "My adopted." I froze.
"Ah," the woman replied in the vernacular, "good thing you got a decent looking one. She seems nice enough. You're lucky." Then she turned her back on me and talked to my dad some more.
Somehow, I didn't really notice how I ended up amid a throng of people fighting their way into the church. No, I wasn't elbowing my way into salvation alongside them. I think I just let them walk all over me - literally and otherwise.
Fighting back the tears, hiccuping like there's no tomorrow, I clumsily walked around, looking for Rico, my dad's assistant and, as time has proven, one of my trusted friends. When I did find him, I told him unfeelingly that I'd be sticking with him through the whole religious gathering. (I'm almost tempted to refer to it as "quasi-religious gathering", what with all the hypocrites present. Or should I say "pseudo-religious"?)
I sat through more than an hour's worth of inaudible sermon, preachings I couldn't really understand due to my shallow knowledge of the place's language, and crying babies. And all throughout, I was shifting between trying hard not to cry and cursing the whole damn place - its people included, of course - into oblivion.
I hated my father - yes, my biological father, that same popular public figure who referred to me as his adopted child - for denying me. It wasn't my fault that he accidentally got a woman - my biological mother - pregnant out of wedlock. It wasn't my fault that he couldn't very well tell the world his sins, much less own up to that particular dirty deed even though the finished product has been made available for the physical world to see. It wasn't my fault that he's a bachelor with a baggage, which, if I may add (not for spite but just for further factual matters), he tried to hide for, say, 16 years.
True, I thought to myself while shredding the contribution envelop into strips, he provided for my education (still is), gave me a house to live in, a nanny and two more housekeepers, a driver, and a hefty allowance. But he also deprived me of my mother and a good father, since he shipped me off to Manila "for educational purposes" while he stayed in quiet Bukidnon. And he had the gall to tell people I'm adopted, when in fact, I'm his own flesh and blood.
That, my friends (yes, yes. I only have so many blog readers), has got to be the biggest rejection I had during my adolescent years. And even though I'm okay with my dad now - we don't fight as much, a lot of people know now that I'm his illegitimate but only child, he generally/kinda/somewhat treats me well in public - I haven't really forgotten that event in my young life. Like a scar, it had become attached to me, become a second skin, which also functions as a shield from further damage.
When similar or potentially like situations come my way, I immediately brace myself and my scar does its wonders. It numbs me quickly (maybe that's how drugs work for addicts, too). Like earlier today, I found myself in an elevator with three classmates. My girl classmate was teasing me about someone. Actually, I had swore to her in class that if our professor won't call me for recitation that day, I promise I won't fight with my boyfriend for two whole weeks. She brought that up in the elevator and teased me about it. Our other guy classmate who was also there in the elevator with us rationalized: we (my boyfriend and I) shouldn't be fighting since, in the first place, we weren't together. Yes, because we weren't together. Not a couple. Not romantically affiliated with each other. I froze.
Our girl classmate grew uncomfortable. I think I knew how she felt, by the way. She was torn between telling our guy classmate off and actually entertaining the bit of possibility that, indeed, we weren't a couple, as I had led her to believe, and that my stories were just a dreamy product of my sick imagination. After all, the guy classmate, yes, that guy in the elevator, and my boyfriend were good friends.
All throughout the ordeal, in that cramped elevator, I just stuck with my phony smile and ignored both of them. I fixed my gaze at the fourth passenger, another guy classmate who's as confused as the other two were. I prayed to the Lord, my God, to be saved from another rejection, another probable denial of relations.
It's like this: that part of me has been damaged already that it cannot be damaged some more. All I can do now is to prevent the damage from piling up. I have my scar already and I don't want another scar to settle on top of my existing scar. Thus, the defense.
But then they call it insecurity, paranoia, cynicism, and pessimism. Hell. They call it insanity. I say to myself I don't really care. They can call it anything they want. For me, it's my shield.
But, really, I do care. And I want the "insanity" to stop. I want to revel in the world's beauty, to look at the sunflowers as beautiful creations and not as temporary and useless blooms which will wilt away tomorrow or even later. I want to believe that I can do wonderful things, that I can be happy, that I AM happy, and not anticipate misfortunes and a lifetime of misery. I want to trust people and I want them to trust me, too. I want to be accepted and loved. I want others to feel proud of me. I want to laugh, and mean it.
I don't want to be rejected again and denied by those I care about. Where's a sense of security when I need it the most?
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
writing as if no one could read my thoughts
Are we where we live in?
Yes, that's right. "Are we where we live in?" Somehow I'm not too sure if that's even grammatically correct but that's the question which popped into my head while I was on my way home from school today (or rather, yesterday, as it is already 12:46 am of June 18, 2008).
Stuck in the usual 8pm traffic jam along EDSA, I see wired fences used by the authorities to separate lanes and the gray concrete pillars which hold the MRT. I stare at the gray pillars a little longer than necessary and feel the roughness of the pavement as the car's tires moved lazily towards the tunnel's end. This is Manila, or a part thereof actually. But still, this is Manila.
From where I sat, there's nothing I could find which resembles romance or dreaminess. No feeling of mystique that the cobbled streets and ancient spires of Prague are able to generate easily among its travelers. No desire to French Kiss, Paris-style. No liberating sense of spirit and defiance that even the hustle-and-bustle nebula of New York can evoke. Just slabs of concrete along the stretch of EDSA and a stream of red lights before me, showing just how congested Manila traffic can get.
I look around and see pedestrians and commuters, all waiting for a chance to cross the street - unmindful of the jaywalking statutes, of the clumsily arranged barricades - or for a ride home. The drivers are getting impatient, as you can determine from the way they honk their vehicles' horns and how they trrry tooo incchhh theiirr carrs forward, to the left, to the right in the hope of escaping this traffic jail.
Nothing romantic there too.
After years and scores of living in such a wonderful place (feel both my sarcasm and honesty - yes. Manila is a wonderful place), do we assimilate the gray-ness of EDSA into our very own lives and personal character? Do we do things in a humdrum manner - consciously, unconsciously - because the place does not call for imagination? Do we forget about our respective "inner child" and stop dancing in the rain because of pollution?
Yes, we may get sick and, yes, acid rain is reality, but what about excitement? Laughter? And just plain fun?
The place has taught us how to be independent, practical, and resourceful but I feel that it has also taken away a big chunk of our spirit. It's saddening, when you actually think about it.
Or then again, maybe "sad" is just a tad too romantic a word. And after much effort, we still feel nothing: not the loss of spirit, not the drowning of imagination. We stare into the crowd and see not one soul. But, still, we belong here - in this comfortable routine of indifference and pragmatism.
Still.
Like those gray concrete pillars along the stretch of EDSA.
Yes, that's right. "Are we where we live in?" Somehow I'm not too sure if that's even grammatically correct but that's the question which popped into my head while I was on my way home from school today (or rather, yesterday, as it is already 12:46 am of June 18, 2008).
Stuck in the usual 8pm traffic jam along EDSA, I see wired fences used by the authorities to separate lanes and the gray concrete pillars which hold the MRT. I stare at the gray pillars a little longer than necessary and feel the roughness of the pavement as the car's tires moved lazily towards the tunnel's end. This is Manila, or a part thereof actually. But still, this is Manila.
From where I sat, there's nothing I could find which resembles romance or dreaminess. No feeling of mystique that the cobbled streets and ancient spires of Prague are able to generate easily among its travelers. No desire to French Kiss, Paris-style. No liberating sense of spirit and defiance that even the hustle-and-bustle nebula of New York can evoke. Just slabs of concrete along the stretch of EDSA and a stream of red lights before me, showing just how congested Manila traffic can get.
I look around and see pedestrians and commuters, all waiting for a chance to cross the street - unmindful of the jaywalking statutes, of the clumsily arranged barricades - or for a ride home. The drivers are getting impatient, as you can determine from the way they honk their vehicles' horns and how they trrry tooo incchhh theiirr carrs forward, to the left, to the right in the hope of escaping this traffic jail.
Nothing romantic there too.
After years and scores of living in such a wonderful place (feel both my sarcasm and honesty - yes. Manila is a wonderful place), do we assimilate the gray-ness of EDSA into our very own lives and personal character? Do we do things in a humdrum manner - consciously, unconsciously - because the place does not call for imagination? Do we forget about our respective "inner child" and stop dancing in the rain because of pollution?
Yes, we may get sick and, yes, acid rain is reality, but what about excitement? Laughter? And just plain fun?
The place has taught us how to be independent, practical, and resourceful but I feel that it has also taken away a big chunk of our spirit. It's saddening, when you actually think about it.
Or then again, maybe "sad" is just a tad too romantic a word. And after much effort, we still feel nothing: not the loss of spirit, not the drowning of imagination. We stare into the crowd and see not one soul. But, still, we belong here - in this comfortable routine of indifference and pragmatism.
Still.
Like those gray concrete pillars along the stretch of EDSA.
Sunday, June 15, 2008
recycling thoughts
Why do we struggle for a topic to write - just anything to write about - about when, in fact, there are a lot things in the world we see everyday (or don't), which may be the subject of our articles?
In the hope that we would somehow come up with an article a tad more interesting than what our little brother might write about, say, a bruised toe, we write about overused topics: love, death, suicide, changes, love, life, writing itself and its random blocks, the mountains, freedom, paradise, love again. Yet, though we know a lot has been written about these things, we continue to contribute our "expert" opinions. And readers read them, some grudgingly, yes. But, still, the articles generate more interest than nothing at all.
They tell us, "What? That again?" and "Well, that's that. Nothing ever changes with that." And then they launch into a discussion about how those things never change and how pathetic people can get when they dwell in those overused, overrated things. They go on and on about how talking and writing and reading about those things have become so yesterday. And, yet, they talk about the same things for hours - whether they're sober or not. And you smile because you know better than disagree with them on any point.
So you sit and listen to them complain about how the world talks about nothing else but that, that, and that. That nothing is left to be said about this, this, and this. And you silently formulate blog entries about those things. Yes, their essences, their importance in life - all based on you expert and honest opinion, of course.
AS if there's nothing else left to write about.
In the hope that we would somehow come up with an article a tad more interesting than what our little brother might write about, say, a bruised toe, we write about overused topics: love, death, suicide, changes, love, life, writing itself and its random blocks, the mountains, freedom, paradise, love again. Yet, though we know a lot has been written about these things, we continue to contribute our "expert" opinions. And readers read them, some grudgingly, yes. But, still, the articles generate more interest than nothing at all.
They tell us, "What? That again?" and "Well, that's that. Nothing ever changes with that." And then they launch into a discussion about how those things never change and how pathetic people can get when they dwell in those overused, overrated things. They go on and on about how talking and writing and reading about those things have become so yesterday. And, yet, they talk about the same things for hours - whether they're sober or not. And you smile because you know better than disagree with them on any point.
So you sit and listen to them complain about how the world talks about nothing else but that, that, and that. That nothing is left to be said about this, this, and this. And you silently formulate blog entries about those things. Yes, their essences, their importance in life - all based on you expert and honest opinion, of course.
AS if there's nothing else left to write about.
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